??In the manor, the older children looked at Fei Zhen angrily and left in a daze, and then they couldn''t help but asked in a low voice: "Isn''t this too rude..."
?Fei Zhen can hardly lose the argument.
Although Feizhen feels that he has read more books than the children of the Kong family, this is just his own opinion. In fact, there was still some gap between what he felt. At least Feizhen''s mastery of the Tao Te Ching was obviously lacking.
The Tao Te Ching, after all, you can understand its meaning by reading it twice, or by understanding all the words in the Tao Te Ching...
?Many children feel that they are the prettiest and smartest, and even some children still feel good about themselves when they grow up. Fei Zhen also feels a little bit better. After all, in the land of Guanzhong, which child dares to rebuke in front of Fei Zhen, or even defend her mercilessly?
?Fei Zhen was naturally a little embarrassed, but fortunately Fei Zhen did not become angry because of this and made a fuss in Meizhuang. She just left angrily.
??Seeing his sister getting angry and running away from Fei Zhen, the eldest child couldn''t help but feel a little embarrassed.
The younger child was silent for a while, and then said: "A little." 』
A little? ” The eldest child turned his head in confusion and blinked twice, “Then why don’t you let him go a little bit...it’s more or less respectful...”
"Respect? The child frowned slightly and replied, "If the world respects him, is it respecting himself or his father?" 』
"This..." The eldest child seemed to want to say it was Jing Feizhen, but later he honestly said, "It''s Jing Feizhen." 』
The child asked again, "The hussar treated you and me with courtesy, so he sent his son to come in rudely. Isn''t this a bad name for the hussar?" His son is rude, because we respect the hussar, so we should respect him even if he is rude? 』
‘This…’ said the older child, ‘then you can’t…’
Since it is a debate, there must be a winner and a loser. "The child said, "What''s more, if you have to give in to others to even argue, how can you become a great person? 』
??The eldest child was speechless and still looked outside the courtyard, as if to express that he couldn''t just argue the person and run away...
After a pause, the younger child said, "Brother, have you ever heard of the saying, "If the king does not enter the minister''s house, the father... the father will not enter the son''s house"? "Maybe it was because of the mention of his father that the younger child paused for a moment.
The older child was stunned, "Is there such a thing?" 』
The child nodded, "Brother, do you think so?" Since it is said that the king is the guide for his ministers, and the father is the guide for his son, then all the land in the world must be the king''s land. Since it is the king''s land, everything is governed by it, but why is it said that "the king will not enter the minister''s house, and the father will not enter the son''s house"? 』
The older child tilted his head, thinking.
In traditional Chinese culture, Confucian culture has always occupied the most important position. The ethics of ethics is the most important thought in Confucian culture. Under the feudal system, there was a strict hierarchical system, and within this hierarchical system, such a sentence seemed to violate the three cardinal principles and five constant principles.
?The specific origin of this sentence or who said it is hard to find out. There are similar words such as "The king does not see his wife" and so on, but they are actually the same thing.
This etiquette requirement must have existed before the Tang Dynasty. I won’t talk about the dirty things about Tang Noshin. Anyone who knows the details must be talking about it. If it is mentioned, this matter may have come from Qi Yigong. Something traditional. In the current era of the Han Dynasty, there is no need to mention Lao Cao, even Liu Chan, the later master, seems to have had some involvement. (This chapter refers to Note 1, Note 2, and Note 3)
As for the various mythical dramas of later generations, the emperor went to the courtier''s house as freely as if he were entering his own back garden, and when he met the courtier''s wife, he greeted and drank like a young lady in a club. In fact, it was a great The slander of Chinese etiquette.
?Most emperors pay great attention to this aspect of the issue and are not as confused as in various divine dramas.
Since ancient times, China has been a country that attaches great importance to etiquette. Whether you are visiting someone''s home or looking for relatives and friends, you must follow etiquette, especially among the children of the gentry, they pay even more attention to this.
??Feizhen feels that this manor belongs to her family and she can come and go as she pleases. This is actually a very rude thing. It''s like if a relative comes to live in your home, and then you can open the door of the relative''s room at will and break in unscrupulously? Or the landlord thinks he has a real estate license, so he can come in and out at any time without informing the tenant, and then he can accuse the tenant of acting like the boss of the house, without thinking about who owns the house. Here you go. Living here, you still don’t know how to be grateful?
『The king does not enter the residence of his ministers, and the father does not enter the residence of his son. 』
This is the most basic concept of property rights in China. It is a moral constraint to protect private space from infringement. It shows that even a king and father must follow etiquette and respect others first before they can be respected by others.
Although this sentence cannot completely stop the king from occupying by force, it at least shows that this matter is wrong and immoral. Take Cao Cao as an example. If Lao Cao casually breaks into the backyard of a courtier, and then sticks out his head and Look, he laughed and said, "Oh, this is your wife..."
?So what should I do if I want to be a minister?
This is ethics, this is morality, and this is the most basic etiquette for people.
If you want to be respected by others, you must first know how to respect others.
In Dream of Red Mansions, Jia Zhen of Ningguo Mansion was not very good in this regard, so Jiao Da drunkenly cursed, "Every day I steal dogs and play with chickens, those who crawl on ashes crawl on ashes, and those who raise a brother-in-law raise a brother-in-law." . No matter in any era, this is the most immoral behavior, so when Jiao Da was drunk and scolded, "all the boys were frightened to death", and they did not even dare to hear such words. Therefore, "A king does not enter his minister''s house, and a father does not enter his son''s house." Although it is a common saying, it is a very reasonable sentence. This involves the most basic and unbreakable bottom line of being a human being and a superior.
Returning to the property of Meiling Manor, it is indeed the Fei family''s manor, but now that it has been given to the Kong brothers and sisters to live in, whether it is a lease or a gift, Feizhen barged in directly without notification, and herself Just a rude act. So the Kong family''s daughter pointed it out unceremoniously and responded to Fei Zhen. Could it be that she could just yell that the Kong family''s second son was ignorant and ungrateful?
?For example, "If my father hadn''t rescued you, you would have died long ago?" 』
Or, "If my father doesn''t give you a house to live in, will you sleep on the street?" 』
And so on.
It is indeed "if". If there was no such thing as Qiaoqi, who would sincerely respect Fei Zhen?
Just like you and me. ” The child whispered, “If we don’t have the name of father, how can you and I be worthy enough to live here?” Therefore, these trivial matters are all trivial! Brother, you and I have more important things to do..."
"ah? ” The older child opened his eyes wide, “What’s more important? What''s the big deal? 』
“You haven’t thought about it,” the Kong woman asked with a frown, “such a Zhuangzi must be worth a lot of money... What can you and I compare to this Zhuangzi?” Have you thought about it? 』
The eldest child thought for a long time, and then asked hesitantly, "Hmm...could it be...horse bones?" 』
Kong''s daughter said: "The horse bones were left to us by our father... But this reputation can only be used for a while, how can it be used for a lifetime?" If today the Prince of Cavalry can bully you and me rudely at will, but you and I are obedient and do not know right from wrong, who will be able to distinguish right from wrong for you and me in the future? 』
The older child scratched the back of his head and said, "Is that so..."
“However, I would like to thank the prince for coming in rudely today...” The Kong family smiled and showed a small fang, “One person retreated during the argument today, but hundreds of people will not come in the future!” I think it will be a lot cleaner next time, just enough for you and me to concentrate..."
"ah? 』The older child has never been able to turn around in his life.
Ms. Kong nodded, and then looked at the older child seriously, "So, brother, do you have the awareness to be a good horse bone now?" As the saying goes, horse bones are worth a thousand gold, but brother, do you think you and I are worth a thousand gold right now? If it''s not worth it, then how can you and I be so virtuous as to live here forever? Even if it is temporary residence, how long can I live here? Where will it end up then? How long will your father''s reputation protect us? With all this going on, does your brother still think that being polite or rude to the Prince of Cavalry is a big deal at the moment? 』
"This..." The eldest child stood still for a while, sweat beads dripping down his forehead. He raised his hands and said, "What the little sister said makes sense, so what is the most important thing for us to do right now?" 』
"read. Now you and I can''t carry our shoulders, we can''t reach the books, we are single and weak, even if we have millions of ambitions, it is better to concentrate on studying. ” The daughter of the Kong family said, categorically, “The ancestors of the Kong family are famous for their scriptures, how can they be degraded now? ! You should use this place, reject foreigners, study hard, and increase your knowledge. This will be the foundation for you and me to establish ourselves! This is the long-lasting road! My brother is still stuck in these trivial matters, when will he be able to achieve success? If your brother cannot uphold the name of the Kong family, please tell me as soon as possible. My little sister is not talented, and she doesn’t want to be reduced to dust in the name of her father! 』
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A group of nobles gathered in one place, chattering.
"Hey! Have you heard about it? The Kong family’s children have arrived in Chang’an! He was also placed in Meiling Village by Qiusi! 』
That Kong? 』
‘And that one? Kong Rong and Kong Wenju! 』
"ha! Kong Wen’s children? What''s the use of Confucius and Wen''s raising children? Not as good as Kong Wenju himself? Why didn''t the Hussars bring Kong Wenju himself to Chang''an? ” A middle-aged man with three long beards and an upright look suddenly stepped in and said loudly, “Is it possible that this child has something to do with Hussar? Are they the children that Qiusi left behind? Otherwise, why would there be such preferential treatment? The middle-aged man spoke righteously, but suddenly found that everyone seemed to be half a step away from him. He couldn''t help but feel a little flustered, "Huh?" What are you...what are you doing? 』
??The other gentry children stared at him, and after a while someone asked: "Do you really don''t understand, or are you pretending not to understand?" If you really don’t understand, you are stupid. If you pretend not to understand, you are bad! After all, who are you? 』
You, you, you! How can you be so rude! ” The middle-aged man was furious, “This is just a discussion! In this bright world, is it possible that people can’t talk anymore? ! Why is he either stupid or bad? This is so rude! 』
"oh? Is this rude? Doesn''t it count as rude if you slander Hussar behind his back? "Another member of the noble clan said, "You can say that the Hussar is very capable, or you can say that the Hussar is trying to do something with this move. That''s all fine. We were just discussing this matter. It doesn''t matter... just talk about it. Just lean on someone else''s side. What do you mean? Do you only know how to leave your children when you are together with Hussar? 』
"This... this..." The middle-aged scholar stared and tried to explain, "That''s what I said... I didn''t mean it... I just... said it casually, just said it..."
It seemed that the patrolman on the street noticed this and turned around to look over. The middle-aged scholar quickly covered his head and face and hurried away, causing the other gentry children to burst into laughter.
A scholar nodded at the middle-aged man who was hiding his face and walking away, "Tsk! Even if you are spreading rumors, do you still need to think of a better excuse? It''s true... If we talk about Prime Minister Cao, he probably has some children outside the country. As for this Qiaoqi, I''m afraid that even the Qiaoqi will look down on him if they are rushed to send him! 』
eh? What do you mean by "send it up"? 』
"The younger sister in my family is also virtuous and virtuous, as beautiful as a flower. I have heard about Hussar''s name for a long time, and I have been admiring her... It''s a pity, alas, I heard that many of the girls in Zhiyin Prison originally wanted that... but Hussar went away "Don''t even go, you say," the scholar tapped the back of one hand twice in the palm of the other, "What else do you need to live outside, even if you are inside, you can''t ask for it..."
"Oh, I am the Zuo Feng Yi Chang family, who is not yet married..."
『Uh uh, don''t, don''t get too close...』
There was another burst of laughter among everyone.
Different from ordinary noblemen, Wei Duan, who lived in the Wei Mansion and stayed behind closed doors, had more things on his mind.
To become an official.
It is not imprisonment.
??So Wei Duan can still contact the outside world, and for people like Wei Duan, he must not be willing to remain silent like this, and then the clan will be reduced to a poor family.
Therefore, although Wei Duan is currently closing the door to thank guests, living in seclusion, and acting honestly, in fact, his mind is still in the court, paying attention to any disturbance inside and outside Chang''an.
Just like the news that the children of the Kong family and related people in Shandong arrived in Chang''an this time, Wei Duan naturally heard about it and had some ideas...
In Wei Duan''s case, the Kong family''s children are not just two children, they are more like two pieces of fragrant meat!
?So Wei Duan immediately got into the study and started rummaging through the cabinets. He didn''t even bother to eat the preserved meat.
Wei Kang, Wei Duan''s good son, naturally could not still sit comfortably after his father retired from office. He was also dismissed from his official position and stayed at home to grow old. "Father, what are you...looking for?" 』
"Come on, help me look for it together..." Wei Duan was old after all. After working for a while, his back ached and he was a little dizzy, so he gasped and said, "Look for the letters between my father and Kong Wenju." …』
Kong Wenju? Wei Kang asked, "What are you looking for his letters for?" 』
『Kong Wenju’s children are now in Chang’an! Wei Duan calmed his breathing, "Do you know what this means?" 』
If you are in Chang''an, you are in Chang''an. What else does this mean? What does it mean? What does this have to do with us? Wei Kang cursed in his stomach, but he couldn''t say it with his mouth, so he just shook his head.
! Wei Duan suddenly felt a little angry again.
Wei Kang lowered his head, acting like a good boy.
?When his father is angry, he will do this, but doing so does not mean that he understands the truth or realizes his mistake, but it means non-violence and non-cooperation.
Yes, although Wei Kang has experienced such hardships, just like in later generations, tutoring children with homework can cause them to get angry and have a cerebral hemorrhage. A naughty child is still a naughty child, and he will not become more sensible just because his parents have a cerebral hemorrhage. If you don''t do your homework, you still won''t do it. Even if you receive a beating from society one day, you may not be able to repent.
? Wei Duan didn''t bother to explain to Wei Kangduo. Sometimes he felt that his son didn''t seem to be his biological son. If the big man didn''t have any DNA testing methods at the moment, Wei Duan might have wanted to check it out. So Wei Duan just ordered Wei Kang to search among the old slips to find the letters between Wei Duan and Kong Rong.
Kong Rong was famous all over the world at that time, especially when he held an important position in the court under He Jin. Many people continued to explore literature, ask for advice on the meaning of the classics, or visit him in person, or write letters to ask for advice. Therefore, Wei Wei Duan and Kong Rong also exchanged some letters...
But after so many years, even the correspondence papers of later generations may not be said to be well preserved under the changing seasons of spring, summer, autumn, and winter, let alone these bamboo slips, wooden slips, and silk calligraphy and ruler slips from the Han Dynasty.
Wei Kang stuck his **** out and rummaged through the pile of old papers. Under the flying dust, he found a lot of old wooden slips and tattered bamboo slips, but he couldn''t find the letters between Wei Duan and Kong Rong that Wei Duan said.
??At that time, it was just to build a relationship with Kong Rong, so although these letters written by Wei Duan at that time cannot be said to be thrown away, they were not stored carefully. After so many years, it is not easy to find them.
After all, who would have thought of this?
??If Wei Duan knew that there was a situation like today, he would definitely have found a good container, put some quicklime in it, wrapped it with some oil paper, silk or something, and kept the letters well.
"Father..." Wei Kang looked disgraced and exhausted, "I really can''t find it...Father, why are you looking for this letter?" 』
?Perhaps because of Wei Kang''s hard work in searching, Wei Duan was no longer as angry as before, so he said in a deep voice: "The Hussar''s move has great meaning." Think about it, who is Kong Wenju? 』
Descendants of Confucius? ” Wei Kang replied.
Wei Duan closed his eyes, "What else?" There are so many descendants of Confucius! Why did they save Kong Wenju’s children? 』
This... leader of Shandong Wenhua? ” Wei Kang’s voice became lower.
“There are so many Wenhua people in Shandong, why should we save the children of the Kong family?” Wei Duan frowned, "Why is it that today, you are still so superficial in your consideration of the problem?" 』
Wei Kangba smacked his lips, as if he wanted to say something, but he was choked by the dust around him and suddenly started coughing.
"Forget it, you get up first," Wei Duan waved his hand, then raised his head, and after thinking for a moment, he said slowly, "This hussar rescued the Kong family''s children, don''t think it is a small matter... See, there are at least three levels of thinking..."
Note 1: In the early days, when Duke Yi was a son, he hunted with Bingrong''s father and failed to win. When he came to the throne, he cut off Bingrong''s father and made Bingrong his servant. A wife with a mediocre job is good, and a palace in the palace can make a mediocre job a good one. In the fifth month, Duke Yi traveled to Shenchi, where they bathed and played. The official said: "Break off your feet!" Rong said: "The wife-stealer!" "The two of them were both ill. This was a grudge. They planned to travel to Zhuzhong with the public. They killed each other in the public car, abandoned Zhuzhong and died.
NOTE 2: In the first month of the twelfth year, Yan''s wife Hu came to congratulate the Queen Mother. The Queen Mother ordered her to stay with her until she was menstruating. The Hu family was beautiful, but Yan suspected that she was having an affair with her later master, so he called Hu five hundred Lao, and then he caught her face with his shoes, and then abandoned her. Hu Ju informed Yan, and when Yan was imprisoned, one of the officials said: "The soldier is not the wife of Laos, and his face is not the place to be worn." 』Yan actually abandoned the market. Since then, the minister''s wife and mother have come to celebrate. (Note again, this Yan is not Cui Yan.)
Note 3: Lao Cao jumped, "I didn''t!" Your example is inappropriate! My wife is a widow! 』
‘Why don’t you just give me a chestnut? What are you anxious about? 』
?Lao Cao said, why don’t you lift the hussar when you lift the chestnuts? !
Does the Hussar have that many wives? Others wouldn’t believe it even if I tried it!
Lao Cao…