A few days ago, after her mother got off work, Linghua said cleverly that she had done the housework and cleaned up the room. At that time, my mother was very happy, but soon the neighbor came to me and said that Linghua didn''t go to learn the piano, but secretly went out to play. After coming back, the mother of the angry water chestnut picked up a clothes hanger and hit the child.


    In a fit of anger, the mother of water chestnut took the clothes hanger to beat the mouth of water chestnut. Dodge, but also hit the face, eyes around and chest and other parts. In a rage, Linghua stole the money from her family and ran away from home.


    Fang Tianxing took her home. On the way home, he met his neighbors. Fang Tianxing asked them about Linghua''s family. "Their family often beat their children. We are used to it." A lady nearby said that the story of Linghua is well known around. Sometimes a group of children come to play at home, and adults don''t have any defensive psychology. Who knows that in the blink of an eye, Linghua will steal some property.


    In addition, many children are often bullied by Linghua or robbed, which is very common. Many parents have repeatedly warned their children not to play with Linghua.


    Neighbors said they were shocked to see the water chestnut beaten like this and thought it was inappropriate to beat children like this. At the same time, they think that the child of Linghua needs to be well managed, otherwise something really big may happen in the future.


    Many surrounding children rushed to tell the bad deeds of water chestnut, they all confirmed to reporters, parents do not let and water chestnut have too much contact.


    It has always been her mother''s fault that Linghua doesn''t study hard“ I used to beat her hand when I was found escaping from piano lessons. " Her mother said that in addition to stealing other people''s things, she also developed the habit of lying and refused to admit it when the evidence was conclusive.


    During the conversation, Linghua''s mother cried again and again, sighing and saying: "I cried all night last night. The child was born by myself. The heavier the fight, the more painful the mother''s heart is. I have tried to persuade her, coax her, and even kneel down several times to beg her not to steal any more. But it didn''t work, and the angry and anxious mother had to choose the simplest and most crude way.


    "If you don''t teach when you are young, you can''t manage when you grow up." Linghua''s mother said that she was worried that her daughter''s bad habits could not be corrected when she grew up. In case she took drugs again, she would not be saved.


    I beat her because I love her too much. I want my son to become a dragon and my daughter to become a Phoenix. I hate iron but not steel.


    Fang Tianxing said with disapproval: "complete pay is the biggest selfishness, ignoring the true feelings of others, forcing others to accept their own pay in the name of love, the final result can only be forced to leave his relatives.


    This kind of love is not great at all, on the contrary, it is the biggest selfishness, turning relatives into their own puppets. From the perspective of mother Linghua, her mother was extremely short of material at that time, and she may have many things she could not do.


    So a unwilling thought came into her heart. She might swear in her heart that she would never let her offspring suffer this kind of suffering if she had the ability in the future.


    After growing up, the material is getting better and abundant. The mother''s previous reluctance is pushed into the subconscious field. After having a daughter, the mother naturally projects this reluctance to her daughter, no matter whether she is willing to accept it or not.


    And the thing that mother of water chestnut does is also very simple, let water chestnut not be like oneself namely. So when we die to pay for a person, you say, because I love this person too much. In fact, it''s not because you want others to do things that you can''t do.


    If the children follow the track they set, they will be very gentle, very good to the children, very good.


    Once children show a little resistance, a little sense of independence, a little want to go their own way. Children don''t have to do anything. This is because these parents dote on their children too much, so it''s not necessary.


    It''s that they are too afraid that the self projected on their children will deviate from the track and can''t become what they want. This is fake love, not true love. Who do you love? Is it the child.


    No, it''s the better self projected on the child. Can also say is, we love a person, is love in his body to pay.


    If the child''s behavior is very close to the idea in their heart, it''s very similar. You feel very happy, very satisfied, love this child, willing to give everything for him.


    Ha ha, if not, it will be miserable. We will keep denying him. That is to say, we usually compare him with other children, beat him, deny him, ridicule him and pour cold water on him.


    Fang Tianxing said to her mother, "if you love her, please put down your control and let her be herself freely. It''s also a wonderful place for love. The sense of value and security of being accepted is not only about being accepted, but also about respecting, feeling powerful, joyful and peaceful. "


    "But the child is so rebellious. What if he fails to learn well in the future?" The mother of water chestnut flower worries of say.


    "Our education is not to set up a wall to block all unnecessary things. It is enough to study wholeheartedly. But to teach children the correct price concept, for example, read more excellent network novels.


    The network literature in the age of the universe is far more than that in the 21st century. Now that the network writers have a stable environment and a professional network literature college to study, there will no longer be those novels with three outlooks. "


    Linghua''s mother nodded and said, "I believe you. I will pay my children to read legitimate online novels in the future."


    Fang Tianxing nodded and said to Linghua, "your mother has promised to give you money to read authentic novels. In the future, don''t take other people''s things. Go to your mother."


    Water chestnut some hesitant said: "good."


    Some scared, she went to her mother, who held her in her arms,


    "Please believe that your mother loves you." Fang Tianxing said to her.


    Linghua''s mother hugged her tightly and said: "I must have suffered a lot outside these days. My mother won''t force you to learn the piano in the future."


    Fang Tianxing said to her, "free will belongs to all living beings. We hope that all parents can give their children real love instead of the anxiety of survival and the lack of sense of value imposed by easy discipline."


    Maslow once said that people must have an objective understanding of reality and move forward in the tide of the world in order to put down their fantasy and paranoia and become a better self.


    Fang Tianxing left here and went back to meet Tang Hai. Tang Hai had been in Dajiang factory for a week. In these days, he stayed with the workers. Although the life here is hard, but people are very warm-hearted and kind, few intrigue.


    Most of the people who uphold justice kill dogs, and most of the people who are ungrateful are scholars.